they did not tell me it would hurt like this
no one warned me
about the heartbreak we experience with friends
where are the albums i thought
there were no songs sung for it
i could not find the ballads
or read the books dedicated to writing the grief
we fall into when friends leave
it is the type of heartache that
doesn’t hit you like a tsunami
it is a slow cancer
the kind that does not show up for months
has no visible signs
is an ache here
a headache there
but manageable
cancer or tsunami
it all ends the same
friend or lover
a loss is a loss is a loss
One of the biggest challenges i’ve faced since graduation has been grieving the changes that arose in some of my closest friendships. it’s not that anything big happened. there was no grand betrayal. life just…changes…you end up in a new city…in an intense job…and suddenly you can’t be in touch everyday. the relationship is still great. it’s just different. sometimes you wish it was the way it was back then. i often miss that closeness with some of my favourite people. i sometimes get sad about the changes and wonder if they do too- but i don’t bring it up cause i don’t wanna make a big deal out of nothing. as a society we spend so much time talking and writing about romantic love i want to hear more about how people are growing with and grieving friends. how are you investing in and building with your favourite people. what are the challenges that come up. how do you overcome them. because romantic relationships are cool and all but i 100% cannot live without friends.
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